Complaint Review: Shannon McDowell: SLMbodybuilding-FITHOUSE. - Vancouver British Columbia

POST-CREDITS

Something quite unexpected has occurred in his matter; I promise to keep this as short & sweet as possible, here.

VESTIGES OF SHANNON

I would not have been emotionally prepared for the unexpected, had I not first completely let-go of Shannon, heeding the U.S. Coach’s final piece of advice to “move forward!” (“CODA”), though it took 2, subsequent IG posts by Shannon after the October 16th 2018 Rip-Off Report update, to do so.

Shortly after seeing the October 2018 update, Shannon temporarily de-activated all of her FB profiles/pages & privatized her 2 Twitter & IG profiles, but [IMO not able to go long without attention], made them all public again on October 26th (except for Twitter), where she made the following IG post, [IMO indicating that her anti-cyber-stalking/bullying campaigning efforts against me after the West Vancouver Police refused to even take a report based on the info she presented them, had fallen-through]:

Shannon on IG-Caption Only (10-26-18): “I thought I had something to offer the world. I thought actually caring and having a well-meaning attitude would really make a difference. I thought with good intentions I could make the people I met feel a bit better and have a little more comfort.

I wanted to inspire people like the ones who inspired me -being inspired was the best gift ever given to me. The cards I was dealt in my life certainly didn’t make going from day to day very easy, but I was willing to go the distance anyways.

Unfortunately, it seems, I was met with a lot of contempt, anger and spite. If I was lucky, I was met with indifference. Today was the day something changed inside. I will never be the same.” #truth #bodybuilding #cyberbullying#cyberstalker #groupthink #gossip#harassment #neveragain #niceneverwins#nomoreharassment #stopthehate#stopthebullying #misogyny#stopthepredjudice.

The next day, Shannon did a photo captioned IG story post of a portion our final email-exchange that didn’t really reveal more than what I have already shared here, the exceptions being an accidental revealing of my first name she had whited-out elsewhere in the exchange, & the exact, discounted amount I had been paying her monthly for services, further violations of our contracted confidentiality. She had been reposting this IG Story daily before I caught it on October 30th using a public IG Story viewing app:

Shannon on IG Story- Embedded Caption Only (10-30-18): “Due to being forced into this unimaginable situation being both professionally and personally defamed, as a last resort I am posting this and you can make up your own mind about it. I apologize if this individual harasses you here. I am diligently working on having him banned.”

I never messaged anyone else who liked Shannon’s campaign posts on IG about the Rip-Off Report, other than the 4 people I impulsively DM’d (“SHANNON’S “ANTI-CYBER-STALKING-BULLYING” CAMPAIGN/HOW TO “LET GO”?”), & rarely post on IG in general. So while I subsequently noticed a temporary inability to follow people on IG, a practice IG Admin uses to monitor users who have been accused of abusing the social media platform, whatever Shannon’s “diligent” efforts were on a platform where the current “Help Section” for users consists of a series of automated multiple choice suggested problems & resolutions with no means of “live assistance”, I have NOT been banned from IG.

Despite [IMO the defect in her perceptive reasoning, Shannon is far from dumb, & the fact is, no one else on this planet knows me better than she; so she knows how to push all of my buttons for better (while an active life-coach), or worse. In addition to Shannon’s needy desire to broaden an otherwise “eye candy” fan-base of those not in-the-know by making her main social media profiles public again, Shannon’s intent that I see these 2 IG posts, the 1st that would warrant empathy & the 2nd, which would otherwise set me off had I let it, did not escape me.

But this was the final wake-up call I needed to see, that the cycle of Shannon’s toxic-gaming social media posts, including the one’s directed at me, would never end, as long as I continued to participate by reading them, reacting to any buttons on me she knew to push]. The day of her 2nd post, October 31st, 2018, I made the conscious decision to stop looking at anything Shannon Lone McDowell online cold-turkey, & start looking at my life as the glass being half-full, & I’ve happily never looked back.

Forgetting I’d signed-out of my browser in early 2019, an accidental query of the Rip-Off Report for any possible rebuttal-update, revealed a cyber-stalking victims forum site that (according to their “FAQs”) [IMO supposedly screened], & allowed Shannon to post a thread as a “cyber-stalking victim”, where she actually shared the link to the Rip-off Report on her, using my final ill-fated FB message to her that the U.S Coach had rightly stated I “should not under any circumstances have made” (“CODA”), as a twisted means to claim I had contradicted myself by admitting I had become a cyber-stalker, though anyone reading the entire SHANNON’S “ANTI-CYBER-STALKING-BULLYING” CAMPAIGN/HOW TO “LET GO”?  section of this report, will understand the exact context of my message to her. [IMO Clearly no longer caring about continual violations of our contracted-confidentiality & how it would look professionally], she once again she shared the FB profile pic of me from the screen-cap with said message for all to see, & nearly spelled-out my entire name, using my first 2 initials & full last name. In looking at this thread a 2nd time only in light of making this 6-24-19 update, nothing has been masked or removed.

And in a slip of a promise to never mention anything about her to me again as per my request, upon giving me a Birthday Gift-Card my close friend E informed me he had been quite shocked & upset to have gotten another email from Shannon shortly before the Thanksgiving holiday weekend on November 26th, 2018, where in essence she accused me of ruining her life; This, after E had already let Shannon know he was no longer acting as a go-between, & knew nothing of my filed Rip-Off Report. I asked E to refrain from forwarding the email to me.

However, these 2 early 2019 incidents were a confirmation that I had made the right choice [IMO, if Shannon is happy in her little world, even without having gotten the “proper medical treatment” as her former friend stated was needed for her to change], I sincerely wish her the peace & wellness she clearly seeks most for herself (27. Shannon on FB Final Saved Pic (10-22-18).

“YOU CAN GO HOME AGAIN”

Having freed myself out from under Shannon’s online Aegis with a new positive outlook, I had resigned myself to life out of the car in San Diego for another few years, until a Section 8 Voucher due in 2020, gave me the golden ticket needed to afford a place. On April 1st, 2019, I got a FB message from a concerned friend who had kept in touch with me from when I was still in the family home under trust in 2016 before I was locked out, with a dream-offer to rent a small condo that he owned not far from where I once lived, well within my monthly disability budget. As of June 1st 2019, I became “Formerly Homeless In San Diego”! 

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Legal Disclaimer & Notes (Updated 10-16-18): ALL statements & quotes either encased in [brackets], or following IMO= “In My Opinion”, or IPO= “In Person’s Opinion” are CONCLUSIONARY under U.S. & Canadian Law (“Damnum Absque Injuria”), some underlined for emphasis &/or proactively censored, & identities initialed, & certain details hidden for privacy. All uploaded photos, edited videos, & copied posts of Shannon presented here are publicly shared content under Facebook’s “Terms of Service" (formerly "Statement of Rights and Responsibilities"), & are numbered corresponding to the details mentioned in this report. Use of Shannon McDowell’s direct, public Instagram posted captions (no #hash tags), & any corresponding comments under said captions in quotes presented here defined as U.S. Copyright protected “Intellectual Property” under Instagram’s “Terms and Data Policy” (formerly “Terms of Service”), are allowed here for “criticism”, “comment”, or “news reporting” for non-profit as Fair Use exceptions under 17 U.S.C. § 107 - U.S. Code - Unannotated Title 17. Copyrights § 107. Limitations on exclusive rights; And as “4. Criticism” or “5. News Reporting” for non-profit as Fair Dealing exceptions under sections 29, 29.1 or 29.2 of the Copyright Act of Canada, and are NOT an infringement of copyright.

PROLOGUE

Not being excusable or defensive but fact of the matter IS for the big-hearted, particularly if they have Adult ADD, saying “letting go” & doing it are 2, entirely different things. Despite my previous promise not to update this already lengthy report based on [IMO Shannon's drama I would NOT fall into the same trap of wasting my time partaking in], I am now forced to do so because I failed miserably implementing my “No-Shannon Drama” vow. But [IMO as usual, Shannon Lone McDowell managed to top herself & my faux pas by committing THE MOST EGREGIOUS Life Coaching “don’t” she could a business coup de grâce for all of her own words & actions as reported here]. And though I choose to retain right of anonymity (such as that is, now), I am still quite embarrassed to reveal my own huge shortcomings, but must continue to accept liability on my-end to remain as fair as possible, & to enlighten.

POST-RIP-OFF REPORT EFFECT

As detailed through-out this Rip-Of Report, Shannon had several chances & ample room to end or resolve the Coaching relationship long before I filed the Report, the 1st & best during Shannon’s “un-plugging-period” between Oct.18th-Dec. 16th 2017, when me & my closest supporters had reached-out (‘HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL’ & QUESTIONS ANSWERED) . ANY overtures made towards Shannon either moving forward or ending things peacefully were ALL that either I, or anyone else in my place could’ve normally or reasonably done, coming close to the edge of my being demeaning, an emotionally exhaustive effort to win someone back-over who was supposed to help with MY well-being by massaging HERS. [IMO, her false, & never-explained accusation of violating her boundaries were a way to justify weaseling-out on me (& blocking me) to come-out smelling like a personal &/or professional rose, something she had ALWAYS managed to get away with others before she met her match with ME. Only her huge demanding ego, combined with her mentally-defective/physical issues, prevented this from occurring].

My corresponding PayPal payment note sent to comp Shannon when the trust funds were available prior to her “ranting-sequel” (SHANNON’S “HOLIDAY FEAST”), was one such overture made to Shannon that [IMO ANY other Professional Life Coach of sound mind would have accepted to make a “Yes or No” decision].

Corresponding PayPal Note to Sl McDowell (12-20-17): “1st, I wanted to offer my apologies for my last emailed comment to you; it was a very dis-respectful and un-christian comment, sent in a moment of frustration.

2nd, this is the back-payment owed to you for Aug-Sept from the Trust funds with (J’s blessing), to settle accounts as per our iPad purchase verbal agreement for those active months of service. 3rd, for the record, I will waive the remaining difference owed from your $XX US converted paypal payment made earlier this week, so as to officially end the coach-client relationship on MY-End. 4th, during our estrangement, as with my 1st coach, my emotions were all over the map & at certain moments when I simply couldn't handle the pain, I proactively sought some answers as I had done with the coach when he un-friended me, but only to learn what unknown boundaries NOT to cross with you, should you have chosen to move forward with me. If this is somehow possibly related to what you were referring to at the end of your email to me, please specify via Gmail & I will verify & "own-up" IF needed, which I have always done with you when I've erred. I will wait until after Christmas to hear from you before proceeding with any planned actions, as I truly want for us to end things in good-standing & eliminate any anger or bitterness on both-ends (I was informed about a couple of your particular FB posts) to remember only the good that was done, & remain thankful- it is not too late. Sincerely, -D” (16.Corresponding Paypal Note to Sl McDowell (12-20-17).

Shannon’s unblocking me on her 2 public FB profiles when belatedly learning of my promotional efforts on IG was a nice gesture, but for me, it wasn’t enough; I felt her contacting me for peace & closure was the professional & decent thing for her to do. I had blocked Shannon on her 2 FB profiles prior to having the Rip-Off Report on her published, knowing that with her [IMO with her “toxic-gamer” mind-set advanced FB settings skills (some that she taught me early on), she could absolutely do a mutual FB profiles blocking of ME; doing this would be a satisfaction-must]. However, defying all common-sense, Shannon didn’t block me on any other of her social media (including her FB Business Pages), something one would think she would do immediately in one fell-swoop, since ALL of her social media sites I knew of at the time were listed in this Report, & it was Linked-In where I found out about her “degree”. Did she honestly forget, or was this another one of her toxic-gaming tactics?

SHARING THE REPORT; MESSAGES TO SHANNON, HER FAMILY, & CONTACTS

Upon completing the filed Report, after sharing the link with my most trusted FB & friends outside social media, including some in Europe prior to GDPR kicking- in (http://bit.ly/2zWMab4), I shared the link with 2 of her immediate family members in Calgary, A.B. via FB messenger, & one with her cousin (?) in Red Deer A.B. with a short intro in May (this was when Shannon finally learned of the Rip-Off Report). These messages were sincere ones voicing concern, along with an understanding  I expected no response & a request not to reveal any more info on Shannon because I already knew enough, ending the message with a promise to ALL that I would never contact them again, which I have kept. Other than the mentioned email I sent to Shannon ahead of filing the Report, & 3 texts to her by cell (unsure if Shannon has blocked me from her cell contacts), including a pic of a Native American with peace-pipe but no text, & a recent threat to file a Canadian BBB complaint if she did not reach-out for a resolution, I had NEVER contacted what looked to be any of Shannon’s other personal FB friends or direct contacts with the Rip-Off Report link unless they were mutual FB friends in the Canadian or U.S. Fitness industry, very well-known pros who ALL ignore her posts.

Just one day after my 5-25-18 Rip-off  Report update, in [IMO an attempt to prevent me from reaching out to her other FB friends/contacts to obtain more info (despite my not having done so since before filing the Report)], Shannon did a disclaimer post across all of her FB & IG social media pages, with the most incredibly false allegation, that I was a cyber-stalker (without mentioning the Rip-off Report), but of course, the Rip-off Report is what she was referring to:

Shannon McDowell aka- SlimMcD Physique Competitor FB Page Post (5-26-18) 7:30am: "Dear friends (written as “Facebook friends” on her 2 FB profiles), I have been dealing with a cyber-stalker who is escalating cyber-bullying and harassment. If ANY individual contacts you inquiring about me in any way, DO NOT ENGAGE HIM. These types ofindividuals feed off of attention both positive and negative to where they can become dangerous to others and themselves. These types of individuals will latch onto you if you give them attention.Please read the links on cyber-stalking and remember, these people can NOT be reasoned with."

1. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cyberstalking 

2. https://archive.attn.com/stories/8800/the-difference-between-internet-creeping-and-stalking

3. https://www.ic3.gov/default.aspx

But after a next-day “cyber-stalker’ explanation post on 5-28-18, Shannon did a FB post sharing of a link to 7 Cups Therapy, indicating [IMO that she realized she had an issue she couldn't remedy herself] -https://www.7cups.com/ .

In early May, I posted a share of the Rip-Off Report link with a brief introduction on several Bodybuilding forums, including one that features some pics of Shannon. 2 weeks later on the same day as my update, someone who [IMO seemed suspiciously like Shannon with the user name of “Libra”] (Shannon’s sign),who joined the forum that very day, posted the below reply:

Forum Reply by “Libra” 5-25, 2018: “If you read that report carefully you will realize it is of a stalker trying to engage her attention and any kind of relationship and interaction with her, be it positive or negative. He had obviously posed himself as a potential client as a means to initiate any kind of relationship with her. All contact was terminated by her with him. Likely after her realizing what he was doing. None of his claims can be backed up and none of it is factual. Seems like this supposed “friend” of hers he talked to had been diiscommunicated by her as well and from what this friend supposedly said, it’s easy to see why. Not really worth a look. Bunch of bunk.” (17. Forum Reply by “Libra” 5-25-18).

[IMO, Shannon has been long used to doing this toxic-gaming with other people in her life, like her 2 mentioned ex’s, & former friend, moving on EACH TIME without fear of reprisal by those willing to remain quiet about the otherwise “beautiful, kind, & gifted Shannon McDowell” known to the public] particularly in the fitness world, where people live by a “Hush-Rule” not to reveal issues of others who “pick things up & put them down”, lest they be revealed for having their own issues, ones Shannon could be aware of to reveal as retribution. Only Forum-Trolls with alias ID’s, name names. I had broken this rule with my anonymously filed Report, feeling it necessary, & safe in having the confidentiality-clause in our Coaching contract; I was the very first person in Shannon’s life to have ever called-her out publicly, something she was not at all ready for & naturally she went ballistic.

But brilliant person she is, after an initial panicking, [IMO the 1st “Cyber-stalker” story done without elaborating on the source would have to suffice, her loyal family & friends would remain silent as per her wishes, & her core-base of “Eye Candy” fans not in-the-know, would continue singing her beautiful praises across her social media with “likes” for every posted selfie, while anything she else posted=”meh”]. I got some positive feedback from some of those I shared the Rip-Off Report link with & they also shared it, while others remained silent, in keeping with the “Hush- Rule.” Shannon has a BIG legal-edge in Canada, where she can sue former clients who file online complaints &/or share links to them about Shannon or her services without a “Burden of Proof” on Shannon’s part to show the defamatory info on her was indeed, false. See this 2017 feature on lack of consumer online review legal protection for Canadian citizens-http://bit.ly/2Qv4jC6.

Three, significant changes Shannon made early in the year, & one after learning of the Rip-Off Report:

1. 95% of her selfie-posts are now done via her main IG, where all content is legally protected & normally cannot be shared without a user’s consent, posting there with more frequency than she ever had previously, perhaps [IMO initially in an effort to make-up for lost time due to her ailments as she slowly rebuilt her lost muscle towards a competitive comeback. She actually used my “Eye Candy” comment in this Report & the “Pollyanna Glasses” comment I made to her in an assignment for her as an IG tag & caption, respectively;

2. Her changing physical looks aside from rebuilding muscle; cosmetically enhanced lips (thankfully not overdone), a deep tan, & a very silver mane of hair, both which made her look more like Donatella Versace in early shots, until she toned them down. The one constant are her iPhone selfies (with occasional “timer-selfies” as per my early PR suggestion), sometimes enhanced with short iMovie &/or Videoshop Video Editor Mp4 clips;

3. [IMO Once she learned of it, her post-Rip-Off Report IG selfie-posts were done additionally as a damage control tactic to “suppress the negative online content” of  more positive content https://brandyourself.com/blog/brand-yourselfcom/emergency-tactics-for-fixing-a-negative-search-result/]. However, she defeats the purpose of this protection by cross-sharing much of her posted IG content on her little-known but public FB “Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse” page named after her main website-https://www.facebook.com/shannonmcdowell.net/, which is why I can share most of her IG content here. (18. Shannon's slmbodybuilding in the fithouse 2018 ‘Changing Looks’ Collage/ Shannon McDowell FB & Online Changing Looks Montage- https://youtu.be/hlcG4rMvieo).

In my particular situation it remained HARD- I still yearned for the Shannon I had believed in & thought I’d known, who strongly emphasized accountability & integrity & [IMO would eventually reach-out for a resolution for professional reasons, or out of guilt & remorse.] After-all, she cut me off without a “professional dis-engagement” email/letter, despite stating that she was “ending this coaching relationship” after my “mystery illness” comment, about-faced with a “no-contact” edict for the remainder of the year (THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL), cruelly dragging things out nearly 2 months before refunding most of my payments along with an B.S. accusatory email after blocking me on her FB profiles with an extended “no-contact” through the end of January 2018 (see SHANNON’S “HOLIDAY FEAST”), ignoring pleas from me & my supporters; continued to either to play me or intended to teach me a lesson with her blatantly attacking emails from a distance, implying an assignment request as if she were still acting as an active Life Coach, leaving me to end the relationship (THEY SHOOT HORSES, DON’T THEY?). I DID look up those particular terms she wrote for my own education, but only SHE could say how they relate to ME.

Except for the U.S. Coach & an IFBB Pro Canadian FBB friend, I could no longer reach out to my other staunchest online supporters online, who had assumed I let it go months ago when I should have, or my offline supporters who had known nothing of the filed Report except my close friend E in light of Shannon’s desperate email to him (See Shannon's Two Responses To The Filed Rip-Off Report On Her, 5-25-18; 1. Email From S.L. McDowell to D's Close friend "E" (5-22-18)). Later I confessed to my young business friend when HE brought-up Shannon, who had earlier forewarned me that any online filed complaint would end up being a “he said/she said” mess, & based on his “succeed-on-your-own-without-complaint” Korean-American upbringing, felt it would also make me look wimpy. After telling E to simply let Shannon know he was unaware of anything, I’ve maintained my promise NOT to mention her to him again (the pending project originally intended as Shannon’s B-Day gift has been renamed). But I wasn’t completely blind to the underlying fact that continuing to follow Shannon’s online postings was NOT healthy towards my letting go, that I needed some guidance. Based on a recent merger, I started re-attending the church my family had gone to for the 1st time since in my teens before my parents’ divorce, & they have been quite supportive. So I first looked to my church pastor for guidance, whose spouse just happens to be a former bodybuilder. The pastor’s suggestions of “self-forgiveness & “finding peace with one-self without the other’s input” were a good start, but away from church-support most of the week, it was all too easy for me to eventually slip back into the same, bad habit.

Now at this point, readers would scratch their heads at BOTH Shannon AND me. As for myself, try to understand the mind-set of a still-broken homeless 58 year old man on a fixed, disability income with issues who had approached Shannon for help; going back to a car each evening that he called-home, struggling to find shelter in an expensive city like San Diego he’d known most of his life, along with other local homeless who far outnumber the available resources; one who had been under the daily aegis of someone so stunning & intensely influential like Shannon Lone McDowell, who had promoted valuable ideals & provided useful tools he still uses daily towards rebuilding his life, but actually added to his issues in-the-end at the point of a break-through. With my life pretty much unchanged with no working-compass, the cathartic effect the filed Rip-Off Report had on me quickly wore-off, & I found myself slowly but surely following Shannon’s posts on her other social media again on a regular basis instead of moving on.

But Shannon's subsequent posts (see 2 below), [IMO created the false impression that she was slowly but surely making an effort to address her issue & was getting better, giving me hope she would eventually reach out to me to professionally to strike a peace to resolve the matter]. These posts included her usual philosophical/philanthropic ones, shares, & photo/video selfie-posts that even revealed an occasional smile, making her seem otherwise [IMO "normal"], & there were no further posts that referenced me. Towards this end, I chose not to continue sharing the filed Report to anyone, with an intention to just follow Shannon occasionally to see how things went, as I still DID care about this woman & her well-being, hoping for the best.

1. Shannon on FB (6-7-18): “I evolved into a better version of myself realizing during the very moment I need to voice my concerns and feel scared, I will instead ask questions to understand the situation as best I can.  With the answers given I can then effectively communicate my intent of harmony and how a clarified situation can be met and what I need. “To be understood, first seek to understand.”

2. Shannon on FB (6-16-18):  “I can seriously root all my struggles back and be explained by the wisdom in this book ('The Power of The Other' by Henry Cloud). It also gave me the clear cut solutions to them. This is a MUST READ if you are the type of person who learned a little too much to only rely on yourself.” Once again, I ignored a red flag that this was still a "self-help book", though it encourages one to reach out to others for help. (19. Shannon on FB Page 'I Evolved Into A Better Version of Myself…’/’I can seriously root’ Collage 6-18).

The only other red-flag that appeared, was while Shannon had changed her main Linked-In info to show the correct years she attended College post- Rip-Off Report, her profile pic now revealed a MADT BFA at Alberta College of Art + Design (ACAD) in Arts, Entertainment, and Media Management obtained in only 2 years (2004-2006) !!! The FB ACAD rep I had messaged in late 2017 directed me to their newly designed site (https://www.acad.ca/degrees-programs/bachelors-degrees/bfa/media-arts), & not only is the BFA degree program for “Media Arts” only, based on the structure alone, there is simply NO PRACTICAL WAY for any student there to obtain a BFA in 2 years, not even for a “genius-level” student that Shannon [IMO indicated she was to be able to accomplish such a thing]. (20. Shannon McDowell's Updated Linked-in Educational Background Excerpt (6-26-18).

With things seemingly status-quo with Shannon, I temporarily re-focused my efforts to transferring my professional work from the iPad5 Shannon had me buy, to a re-furbed bare Dell Laptop my young business friend had found for me on eBay so I could install my Win. 7 discs, more options for low-income housing, & finally selling the expensive classic car I lived in under the trust for a used, more reliable one.

Though I assumed Shannon not blocking me on other social media was a quiet gesture towards striking a peace between us down-the-line, I didn’t dare risk “liking” any of her social media posts. The first sign I had possibly made the wrong assumption followed my discovery that Shannon had maintained the mutual FB blocking when I chose to unblock her on one of her FB profiles in early August as a goodwill gesture, despite her fairly positive posts indicating she may be ready to slowly heal things with me. And when I looked at one of her 2 “IG profile stories” where one can see who is following them, something I was not aware of at the time, shortly afterwards she blocked me from both her IG accounts. I was equal parts shocked, livid, & dumbfounded, [IMO either Shannon was so dead-set on mutually blocking me on her 2 FB profiles, she’d simply forgotten to follow through with blocking me on all her other social media, or again, this was part of her toxic-gaming plan to mess with my head & set me off more each time with her incremental blocking, which seems to make better sense, at least in her world].

Either way, there had been no gesture towards an eventual peace as I’d assumed. What I never revealed here, is that I have a 2nd non-fitness FB profile Shannon simply forgot about my writing to her of (she also has a 3rd private non-fitness profile), anyone can follow a public IG profile without having an account or logging in via a browser (except for IG profile stories) something I learned only recently. & I could still follow posts via her combined social media updates on her Twitter, somewhat ignoring the memo Shannon did not want me following her on social media, even though all of my accounts were legit.

But these events were an initial real kick-in-the-head for me to put away my defensive-excuses & finally start shaking Shannon loose & I really tried, particularly when Shannon did a post [IMO revealing in that she had not really been changing, NO “evolving into a better version” of herself, or a “rooting” of her “struggles”, things were same-o same-o]. In my 2nd pdf assignment to Shannon, I’d suggested she do a Video-Blogging comeback while she rebuilt her physique towards a return to the competitive stage for PR; But [IMO, along with her own emailed/texted words, it has been Shannon’s emotionally-charged publicly posted rants (many that are subsequently removed) that reveal her true-self & have gotten her into trouble], something she is keenly aware of:

Shannon on IG-Caption Only (8-6-18): “Yes, blogging has crossed my mind, but wondering if that would actually be a good idea for a rant-predisposed person like me.” These rants began to rear their ugly head again starting with this post, the first of 3 disturbing ones done across her social media accounts indicating [IMO she had dealt with friends who had seemingly betrayed her by conferring with each other about her after she had been conferring with them.]

Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse FB 8-30-18”: “I had paper doll friends when I fell into a lake” She continued with the 2nd & most disturbing poem-post below, along with an equally disturbing mp4 collage of her face the next day, the poem she later edited out after the word, “truth amplified”:

Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse FB 8-31-18: ENCORE!! Fear removed, truth amplified-“It’s all a pretty lie, Until it’s time to die; The habit of alive, tears shed, without the cry; Words worn amongst a bib, all lack replies to give;Eyes erase the fib, force fed through a goodbye; The paper doll friends are forever at my wake; It wasn’t a mistake I fell into the lake. I swim myself to sleep each night, Give or take." A few days of social media silence was broken with her 3rd rant, a FB posting of a video clip of a snake, with Shannon’s caption “AKA ex-friendssssssss”. The Video caption quote: “Be careful who you vent to. A listening ear can also be a running mouth” (21. Shannon Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse & FB 'paper doll Friends-Friendsss' Collage).

[IMO it seems that these “paper doll friends/friendsss” were simply concerned for Shannon’s well-being, either in light of the effect of the Rip-Off Report or her issues that they knew of, & were more comfortable taking the risk to let her know their concerns & also discuss it among themselves, despite facing Shannon’s explosive wrath when she learned of it; Shannon had tightened her already stringent privacy even more upon reading the Rip-Off Report & had angrily bitten the heads off the institutions I had contacted with inquiries, sources I could not protect. This was the reason the ACAD rep I contacted again would only refer me to the BFA programs link instead of making another official” statement” about the existence of Shannon’s so-called, “MADT BFA degree in Arts, Entertainment, and Media Management”].

SHANNON’S “ANTI-CYBER-STALKING-BULLYING” CAMPAIGN/HOW TO “LET GO”?

I continued following Shannon’s updates, still more in denial than not. But when she blocked me on Twitter a few weeks later after updating her profile there, this was when I snapped. I recalled the one FB friend of Shannon’s from Calgary who had commented on her FB post about her [IMO bogus claim of suffering from her “invisible illness” (See Shannon's Two Responses To The Filed Rip-Off Report On Her, 5-25-18 -2. Original FB "Disclaimer" Post by Shannon McDowell (5-24-18)]. In my frustration I impulsively messaged this friend, along with a share of the filed Rip-Off Report, ignoring my common-sense that ANY close friend of Shannon’s who didn’t know ME would immediately let HER know. I did this just one day prior to an online counseling session I’d requested with the U.S. Coach who had made inquiries about Shannon in late 2017 confirming Shannon’s former friends’ info to me; with her frank nature & equal loyalty to the many female competitors she personally knew of, she had also felt my filed Report on Shannon was more useful for MY own cathartic benefit than necessary, despite my suicide threat. With her own Life coaching & mediation experience, I wanted her advice on how to “let go” in regards to Shannon, increasingly aware at this point what I was doing was unhealthy & inappropriate in light of Shannon’s continual blocking of me. When the friend let Shannon know of my message later that day, this set Shannon off on an 6-day false “Anti Cyber-Stalking\Bullying” campaign blitzkrieg rage against me across all of her social media, an extension of her earlier accusation. She even changed the name of her FB page (Shannon McDowell - National level WPD-Certified PTS), so people would be drawn to the profile pic embedded with her slogan, “NO MORE CYBERBULLING- CYBER BULLIES TRY TO SHAME YOU INTO SILENCE. DO NOT TOLERATE THIS. TAKE ACTION AND PROTECT WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU, YOU!!”

This initial PR engagement tactic worked, with Shannon getting over 367 likes & 80 shares (though no one of note in the fitness industry). Her campaign began with a short post about my message to her friend on 9-17-18, removed the next day, with a longer version posted the day after (shared across her various social media) including my message to her friend, using my initials, & for the 1st time, Shannon alluded to the filed Rip-Off Report (without naming the site), in a strong attempt to blow me, the link to the Report, & the site itself OFF, going as far as to imply that the link was also a key-logging/virus!! She even created a Gmail for people to message her directly with info,  ([email protected]). Shannon subsequently refined these Cyber-Stalker/Bully posts, but neglected to go back to edit or remove the earlier ones to match-up, which [IMO not only reveals her pattern of deception, but also her defective mental reasoning (clear to most after the initial post), as NO Canadian or U.S. fitness industry people liked or shared these posts except maybe 2 on IG, along with a couple of loyal friends , mostly her “Eye Candy” fans, who of course commented on Shannon’s pics, NOT on her cause”. Despite her extensive online graphic-editing skills, this task also HAD to be emotionally & physically taxing for Shannon to even do, quickly depleting her “Toxic-Gaming” feedbag].

BELOW, ARE THE BULK OF SHANNON’S CAMPAIGN POSTS & SOME COMMENTS ACROSS HER SOCIAL MEDIA, IN CHRONILOGICAL ORDER. PLEASE NOTE THE PROGRESSIVE TWEAKING OF HER POSTSED COMMENTS, (EVEN THE TIMELINE SHE’S BEEN DEALING WITH ME), INCREASING THE TOTAL NUMBER OF PAGES FOR THE FILED REPORT TO TURN PEOPLE OFF FROM READING IT; NOT MENTIONING MY LEGAL ISSUES, HOMELESSNESS OR MY DISABILITY; & HOW SHANNON CIRCUMVENTS HER UN-PROFESSIONAL ACTIONS REVEALED IN THE MAIN RIP-OFF REPORT:

Shannon on FB-Extended Re-Post (9-19-18): "Any kind of stalking and harassment to attempt to control, harm, or intimidate another person is a menacing form of potentially dangerous aggression. It is in no way an expression of love or caring. I refuse to enable or buy into a “confused” person’s reasoning to behave in such a way that is destructive to both themselves and all other parties involved. I hope you will refuse also.

The following is an example of abnormal stalking and harassment behaviour I have been dealing with for almost a year now.  It doesn’t stop. If you have received ANY similar contacts by this person with the initials D. ( ), please forward them to me so I can file additional criminal reports on him. Cyber harassment and cyber-bullying is a criminal offence in most regions of Canada and the USA.  I have spoken to the police in the area this individual lives and they will happily take action as more reports are made. This will also protect any future “targets” from being harmed and harassed from this person as well. 

I AM NOT THE FIRST, and this person gets more out of control and destructive each time. He is a master at making you feel sorry for him and feigning innocence. I fell for all this as well!!  Do NOT let him try to turn you against people and cause unwarranted, manufactured drama. Think carefully about his intentions and what his actions are saying, not his “words”. This kind of unhealthy, obsessive stalking behaviour usually only worsens over time without external help:

RECENT EXAMPLE within THE LAST FEW DAYS Less than 24 hours after I BLOCKED another of his accounts AGAIN on SOCIAL MEDIA. : KEY POINT:  THIS IS ABNORMAL, UNHEALTHY OBSESSIVE BEHAVIOUR. (Think about it. Would you ever do something like this????) (I’ve restored a couple of things in the message that Shannon edited out):

‘ “Dear J,  I am the so-called "cyber-stalker" that your friend Shannon McDowell referred to few months ago on all of her social media to downplay things; but I assure you I am NO stalker, just a former client who filed a legit complaint against her in March.

After so many months with no resolution & based on what I was told she posted that specific people such as yourself commented on, (she has blocked me on all her social media), I just felt you should know the truth that she and her immediate family members living in Calgary have been trying to cover up for years, & I never made any more inquiries than was done before I filed the Report online, requesting to those I contacted not to reveal any more than was necessary based on my one question. The Report is quite lengthy but if you take some time to read through it, you will see that I presented things in as fair & un-whitewashed a manner as possible-I was devastated by how things turned out because I only saw the kind, professional & caring side of Shannon before she turned & cut me off, was like dealing with 2 different people. I have been informed that since the Report was posted, there have been longtime friends of Shannon's aware of it that have been more willing to discuss the matter directly with her & others at the risk of her wrath, despite only having her best interests at heart. I have only shared this privately with select people in the Canadian fitness industry, but clearly word has gotten around. –D.” ‘

“ PS- (This individual sent the above bizarre smear campaign to a friend I have had since I was 9. He has also sent many of these to a lot of my contacts. In this instance, my life-long friend and I have no idea what “family secret”  (I wrote “truth”) he is even talking about, what “friends” he is talking about (I was informed by reading of the “paper doll/ex-friendsss”) and the 80 PAGE Report (who even has time to do this?) (Answer: A Homeless person with way too much time on his hands! And it’s was only about a 40 page Report prior to this update) was a bunch of obsessive disjointed thoughts posted on an obscure, shady website that defames people for profit by charging them to remove it.” (This cyber-stalker/harasser never had any real intention on becoming a client.  It was just a rouse, just like his heart breaking stories—— to gain sympathy and attention”, and to “establish contact” without merit - and was immediately cut off when he acted inappropriate and abusive.)

Thank you for your time reading this and if you can assist in any way to stop this toxicity, I appreciate it."

Finally I woke-up to the fact that I was in a gray-area where I could be construed as being on-the-verge of Cyber-Bullying, regardless that my accounts following her were legit, because I knew at that point Shannon didn’t really want me to [IMO, providing her otherwise bogus campaign with its only grain of truth]. With the message angrily sent to her friend, I had lost focus on the objective of striking a peace with Shannon by trying to force it. So the next day I was ready to completely submit to the U.S. Coach when we had our online session, & while she was much more brutal & blunt than usual, she HAD to be:

Excerpts From U.S. Coach’s Session With D on Shannon 9-18-18:  “D, [IPO your rip-off report was accurate but also seems slyly vindictive & vengeful at times, & IMO not necessary for anyone’s well-being but yours]. It is her issue not yours. Your advances and feelings are unwanted and unrequited…You are bordering on being an obsessive cyber stalker…. [IPO She was a bad life coach because of her issues], but she actually owes you nothing or am I missing something?”

As stated in the Report, Shannon “technically” shortchanged me one month’s payment I waived towards making peace with her as a means of a resolution, & the coaching relationship ended prematurely long before the one-year mark as contracted. But there’s no question Shannon went way outside the contract to help me when an active life-coach. So I would have to agree with the U.S. Coach she would really owe me nothing based on the extra services provided, & [IMO any small claims court here, or in Canada, would probably concur].

D: “I was caregiver to my mom the last 8 years of her life 24/7, and my Dad for his final years with dementia, caring for and about others is what brings me the most happiness, that's just me. If I had been up in Vancouver, I would have been making soup for Shannon, lol! I can be like a picky mother hen, but I do it because I care, & like to "fix things".

U.S. Coach: “Yes, not her… Even though your intentions may be honorable it is no longer your circus, no longer your monkey… You are broken.  You must fix you first. You are attempting to help the world from an actual and perceived position of personal weakness-You have too much time outside of the real world on your hands.

Leave her alone. Her problems are none of your concern nor are her illnesses, or how she makes a living… You developed a crush, then an obsession on your life coach…  You don't need a life coach nor resolution. She fulfilled her contract to you and [IPO when you became too much for her she tried to back away, “citing ailments”.]

I don't mean to be difficult with you… but you need purpose. Pursue your church pastor and the congregation for salvation in the real world, not for help understanding Shannon.

SO HOW DO YOU LET GO? ...You need stability and something to occupy your time and give you a purpose.  Anything would be better than nothing, even volunteer work. That is the extent of what I can offer as advice... I wish you all the luck in the world. One more piece of advice: don’t ever mention Shannon’s name as encouragement or excuse again.”

I really wanted to follow the U.S Coach’s advice to a tee; but the DNA of my care-giving big heart got in the way of my common-sense again, as I felt Shannon was at least entitled to a closing message for comfort in that I would no longer be pursuing the matter or following her online; so that same evening after the session I unwisely tweaked some of the advice a bit by sending Shannon a sincere message before planning on following through on the rest, the 2nd such message that came back to BITE ME HARD:

D’s Message to Shannon on her FB Page (9-18-18): “Dear Shannon, I won't file a complaint with the BBB, or share the Rip-Off Report with anyone else. After yesterday, I realized things had reached an unjustifiable unhealthy point, and I was becoming exactly what you accused me of and I was ashamed. You won't have to block me anywhere else, I absolutely promise to let it all go, leave it and you alone, and move on, take care.

-D”.

This message was un-read for a couple of days, & worried I chose to tell the U.S. Coach what I had done; needless to say, SHE WAS LIVID:

From U.S. Coach on Messenger (9-20-18):“My advice was to leave her alone and never contact her, speak of her, or look at her social media again. You blatantly ignored that advice. Even for supposedly good intentions. You are entitled to live your life anyway you see fit and solicit advice and then disregard it. I am entitled to extend my counsel to those most inclined to benefit from it.”                                       

While I had blown things with the U.S Coach, I saw Shannon had read the FB page message later that evening of the 20th; so I felt at least Shannon might quietly accept this as I hoped, & things would be resolved for us both to move on. However, based Shannon’s shocking FB profile posted rant the next day, I could NOT have been MORE WRONG:

From Shannon on FB-Rant w/ Screen-cap of D in Reference Message on Her FB Page (9-21-18): "Oh h*ll no, you are not getting off THAT easy after all this unfounded abuse, defaming and slander. What makes you think your behaviour is any less wrong than physically assaulting someone? You premeditated for months this whole thing in an attempt to cause as much damage as possible on something based on a demented obsession that has nothing to do with reality or real events. A PUBLIC APOLOGY - 100% ACCOUNTABILITY FOR ALL OF THIS INCLUDING OFFICIAL APOLOGIES TO THE INSTITUTIONS YOU CONTACTED. AS WELL AS CALLING OUT THE FEW FRENEMIES INVOLVED AND THEIR CONTRIBUTING DIRTY WORK ON WHAT THIS REALLY WAS ABOUT.....THEIR CHANCE TO EXONERATE THEMSELVES HAS LAPSED. NONE OF THIS WITCH HUNT WAS EVER ABOUT ME IN THE FIRST PLACE. YOU FIX ALL OF THIS!! That is the ONLY thing that will stop me from filing all these criminal reports and there will be more than enough for serious consequences. Police officers are targeted for abuse and harassment as well, and they are very empathetic about situations like this, especially the ones I talked to in San Diego."  YIKES!!!

[IMO Finally realizing this was another over-the-top-rant on her part, one of her worst] after 2 days, she re-edited the post:

From Shannon on FB-Re-edited Post w/ Screen-cap of D in Reference His Message on Her FB Page D now removed  (9-22-18): “I changed this post to say what I realized since first posting it: Abuse shouldn’t be taken lightly. Especially if you are the one experiencing it. Neither should serious attacks aimed at you outside of normal emotional reactions. Someone who is capable of hideous pre-meditated assaults with the aim to harm you as much as possible is not likely going to have integrity. Don’t expect it. Protect yourself.  Know your rights. Know their weaknesses. Do what you gotta do.”

However, having removed any sign of my messaged promise to let go, Shannon ramped-up her campaign, refining it even more along the way:

Shannon on Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse (9-22-18): “I have a cyber-stalker harassing me trying to defame me because I blocked him. He initially posed as an online client but became inappropriate and abusive, ending contact. If you were contacted and sent anything please forward it to me so I can file a police report on it. The more I get, the faster proper legal action is going to be taken. I’d appreciate any help. Thank you. If you can share this post, please do.”

3 Posts Under The Same photos- Shannon on Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse (9-22-18): 1. “I’m sure there are others targeted before me. No one is going to bully me and neither should they bully you!!” 2. “Anti bullying 100%”. 3.”Third time is a charm when grammar is concerned. Zero tolerance to online bullying.”

Shannon on Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse - Anti-Cyber-Stalker-Bully Instructions & Comments (9-23-18) :

Shannon Mcdowell “Send screenshots of anything he sent as DM to this page, or to the email address above. No attachments please, and DONT CLICK on any links in his message. If you already have,

1. change your password

2. log out of all your devices

3. go do a security check on your account using fb prompts”

Shannon McDowell - National level WPD-Certified PTS on FB- Anti-Cyber-Stalker-Bully Instructions & Comments (9-23-18):

Shannon Mcdowell “ Please send screen shots of what he has sent you to either my fb DM or to this email address:

STOPTHISCYBERBULLYING @GMAIL.COM

no attachments please.

If you clicked on his message link reset your fb password just in case.

1. Reset password

2. Do security check with fb prompts

3. Log out of all devices

4. Log back in with new password”

Also, DO NOT CLICK ANY LINKS IN THE MESSAGE, (just in case).”

“Eye Candy” Fans Comments:

(9-27-18) “I Love You”

(9-27-18) “You're so very sexy”.

(9-27-18) “Sweet.”

(9-28-18) “I would like u for lunch.”

Note: Shannon “liked” the first 3 comments, & didn’t block the dis-respectful “hungry” FB friend!

Shannon scaring people into an unnecessary FB security check & password reset, is particularly OUTRAGREOUS.

Shannon’s reply to a posted comment on slmbodybuilding IG (9-23-18): “thank you for your comment and I tried not reacting for over a year and he kept getting worse. These kinds of things don’t come with manuals but after you are constantly attacked every day you get to the point. He isn’t thinking properly he is acting on an obsessive compulsion to get me to talk to him. It’s bullying. It’s beyond bullying. No one should have to up with it. It isn’t moral. It isn’t healthy. It isn’t right. He shouldn’t be able to get away with it and as soon as he published his Report that is OVER 100 PAGES LONG, he broke the law. … And him sending links to said Report is breaking the law again. If I get enough reports filed (with photo evidence) the police will give him one cease and desist and then arrest him."

Naturally quite upset & feeling a right to break my promise,I sent a short message with a link to the Report to 4 of the most popular IG profile followers of Shannon’s who liked one of her “Anti Cyber-Stalker/Bully posts, where only one quickly replied that people like me “Disgusts” him, & that he would be sending Shannon the requested screen-shot before he blocked me & privatized his profile; clearly, this “AskHugeJuiceHead” (not his real profile name) didn’t even click on the link, otherwise [IMO he would’ve remained as silent as Shannon’s family & close friends have]. As of this update, the following is Shannon’s last Anti-Cyber-Stalker-Bully post story directly referencing ME, refined from all the previous posts to cover any holes. I can only share the caption, since she posted exclusively on IG:

Shannon on IG-Caption Only (9-26-18): shannon.mcdowell.fithouse: “Be ready to meet my cyberbully/stalker. He enjoys screening my accounts throughout the day every day to contact anyone who likes or comments on my photos. He is blocked so he likely has alias accounts but his initials are D.    ( ).He contacted me initially for wellness coaching and explained his very dire life circumstances which I felt sorry for. He is very good at getting people’s sympathy. After a couple assignments he refused to participate in any more while demanding more contact. He became hostile and abusive with unrealistic expectations of me so I rightfully cut contact. It escalated to where I blocked him, which enraged him. He does not respect or acknowledge social boundaries.

What he is doing if he contacts you, is illegal and it is feeding his stalking/harassing obsession more. He has written a defaming Report of over 100 pages and published it online which he is using now to harass my friends and family with. This is also a criminal offence. If you get a defaming message from him, please take a screen shot and send it to me via DM or at [email protected]. I’m filing police reports for each instance to stop this guy for good. His previous coach also terminated contact with him over anger and boundary issues. He is likely doing this to other women as well. He is getting worse, and it’s a year later. He will not stop. If you can help me with this I would appreciate it. Thank you.” (22.Shannon Cyber-Bullying Banners & FB Comments (9-23-18).

PLEASE KEEP IN MIND, THAT ALL OF THIS RELATES TO THE FILED RIP-OFF REPORT.

In-between her campaigning posts, she did a short un-related post on her FB, but [IMO staying in top “Shannon-form”]:

Shannon McDowell - National level WPD-Certified PTS on FB-(9-28-18) 1:26 AM: “I had an odd discussion with someone today, on whether or not the whole concept of CPR is a form of co-dependency...” [IMO No need to wonder just WHO brought up this discussion...].

“THE BREACH”

At THIS point, I must accept FULL LIABILITY on my-end for having kicked what had otherwise been a dormant Hornet’s nest with Shannon & would have simply moved on without doing another update. I must also admit she had effectively shaken-me-up. But along with her posted rant, toxic-gamer Shannon fumbled away her “Home Field Advantage” by committing THE BIGGEST BREACH (“don’t”) she ever could have as a Coach, & the reason I felt thisRip-Off Report update was warranted: Shannon posted a screen-shot of my message, along with my FB profile photo & name, a blatant VIOLATION OF THE “CONFIDENTIALITY CLAUSE” IN OUR CONTRACT!! This was quite the additional shock to me, considering the fact that I had strongly emphasized to Shannon that “confidentiality” was crucial before she made up our contract:

From Shannon on FB Messenger to D (4-27-17): … “I take my clients privacy very seriously, so neither you nor those involved in your life need ever be concerned of anything said beyond the given conversation.” [IMO “Very seriously”, unless a former client p*sses her off!!]

She left the screen-shot up on her FB profile along with the rant for 2 full days for all to see before she finally removed both & re-edited her post; but whether one, a few, or all of her FB profile friends saw my pic & name during this time, the damage was done, though this helped me regain my composure to fight-back. Still, I was leery of doing an update with this that would provide Shannon with one more burst of Drama-fuel, so I chose to wait a week to see if she would stop & if not I would block her on her 2 FB pages, stop viewing her IG profile via my browser, & just move on as promised; but that was before Shannon crossed-the-line with her 9-26-18 Anti-Cyber-Stalker/Bully IG post directed at ME, sealing her own fate. (23. THE BREACH).

[IMO Having sensed a dry-milking of her drama using me, as of this update Shannon now alternates between regular selfie-posts with posts on the same subject with sub-topics indirectly referencing me across her social media, such as the below posts, cross-shared with her FB pages:

Shannon on Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse-“Toxicity” (10-5-18): ‘“She was more invested in plumbing the extremes than warning how to avoid them. That animal part of us, it’s the most interesting part,”’ the author, Leïla Slimani, told The New Yorker in a recent interview. ‘“It’s everything that has to do with drives, with things we can’t stop ourselves from doing, with all the spaces where we’re unable to reason with ourselves. It has its dark side, but there’s a luminous side, too….”’ “Why are people so hard? Our modern day high standard living has left us all open to be preyed on more by each other. IDLENESS IS EVIL. That is the real danger these days, the real threat to our health and well-being. If you think toxic people and toxic environments are not taking plenty from you, think again. Just because you can’t literally see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.......take care of yourself and minimize ANY kind of toxicity around you as much as possible.” She actually changed her IG profile name to “sendscreenshothere”!! (24a. Shannon on IG & Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse Screen-Shot ‘Toxicity’).

Shannon on IG-Caption Only-“Gossip” (10-7-18): sendscreenshothere. “Gossip has its place as an evolutionary benefit to society, but you are conducting yourself in a sociopathic manner if you are using it as a vehicle to promote yourself at the undue expense of another. Don’t kid yourself. The rules of the playground you learned as a kid still applies to you as an adult online. In fact, even more so!!”

Hard-Boiled Egghead that Shannon is, I had hoped there might be an effort by her immediate family to use my public Report as encouragement to Shannon to seek proper treatment based on my concerned-message with the Rip-off Report link share, particularly her Mother. But I should have known I was up against a thick, impenetrable wall of quiet protective-support; During my research towards creating the now renamed tribute for Shannon, I learned of Calgary’s (aka “Cowtown”) strong Scottish roots & the corresponding clannish nature of the families there who emphasize protecting one’s own more than the norm, even when one breaks from the immediate-clan as Shannon has by living in Vancouver, which made the 1st part of following post by Shannon, ironic & intriguing to me:

Slmbodybuilding in the fithouse FB- 'Resolution' (10-7-18): "People project emotional issues onto others in a subconscious attempt to work through them. This is destructive. The resolution happens when we can “hold space” for each other instead". Shannon McDowell - National level WPD-Certified PTS on FB-“Gossip” (10-7-18)- Borrowed Eusophi.com Excerpts Embedded in photo: ‘”Groups help us survive. Early humans who stuck together had the best chance of living long and raising offspring. Being expelled from a group and its protection was a death sentence. well-functioning groups helps us survive, and we are wired to protect them from deviants. Gossip is a highly efficient control mechanism for that purpose. The Darker side of gossip shows when people use it to enhance their own status in a group at the expense of others.”’ “If people use gossip for their own selfish benefit at the expense of another, IT IS SOCIOPATHIC BEHAVIOUR. PERIOD!! From an evolutionary perspective, it’s beneficial use is to deter people from being antisocial in a group. used in a way to bolster oneself or harm another without just cause that effects the group is antisocial and abuse of its power”. http://www.eusophi.com/the-functions-of-gossip/(24b. Shannon McDowell- National level WPD-Certified PTS on FB-'Gossip-Resolution' (10-7-18)).

Shannon can rightly attribute my messaging & sharing the Rip-Off Report to her childhood friend as a form-of-gossip, unnecessary & done out of anger, & that resolution should NOT be forced, & as applied, my act was NOT an expression of love or caring.  But she has NO right to bastardize that one act to create a disingenuous anti-Cyber-Stalker-Bully campaign against me as a consumer based on a Report on her she knows is 100% accurate, of which the majority of gossip is inaccurate-http://goingbyfaith.com/types-of-gossip/ . Gossip is another form of defamation being among the campaign allegations that Shannon has accused me of, something that for those who don’t really understand the meaning of these loosely used terms, would simply take them on the face-value Shannon is counting on, the reason I felt compelled to focus on them in detail, below.

BREAKDOWN OF SHANNON’S ALLEGATIONS

Remember that this Rip-Off Report is a filed consumer complaint about the bad practices of a business, namely that of SLMBODYBUILDING-FITHOUSE & said business owner, Shannon McDowell, aka SlimMcD. OVERALL, Shannon (to put it as politely as possible), is simply talking through her glutes with her misuse of the legal terms, & [IMO either did not do her legal homework, or is simply distorting things to suit her typical need for sympathy.] If I developed “unrealistic expectations” of her services, that was due in-part, to my situation; but look at how she promotes herself to people!!

1. CONTRACT

I WAS a client of Shannon’s with a signed, one-year contract  I did 5 assignments, the last one done after she cut me off (‘HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL’ & QUESTIONS ANSWERED). Based on Life Coaching “don’t” no. 2 as stated in SHANNON’S “HOLIDAY FEAST”, I was free to accept or decline anything that was offered from her, with no stipulation for her to cut me off or end the coaching relationship prematurely, all stated in the contract. (25. Coaching Agreement Between Client D & Shannon-Redacted (5-3-17). 

2. LEGALITY OF THE RIP-OFF REPORT & OF THE SITE ITSELF

Early on in our coaching relationship, Shannon complimented me on my eloquent writing skills, neither of us aware at the time I would be forced to use them against her later on. My church pastor paid me the very same compliment after reading through the Report over a few weeks period, saying he became “engrossed while reading it”, & invited me to contribute to the weekly church bulletin. Due to what I knew would be its extended length, I combined all of my research & creative-writing skills to create a chronological & accurate, but also “good read” Report with chapters to maintain reader’s interest, which I feel I accomplished to Shannon’s detriment, the reason why she doesn’t want people to read this Report & is trying to turn people off by exaggerating its length & “obsessive disjointed thoughts”. [IMO Whether in a couple of hours or over a period of time, ANY ONE who reads this Report in its entirety & attachments will get the gist of both Shannon & myself enough to make a fair decision, even Shannon’s supporters, who will of course remain silent to her about having done so. And in case she leans on the length again, Shannon’s own statements & actions take-up over 80% of the additional pages of this latest Report update, which will now end up being around a total of 55 pages, though there are actually unnumbered as seen online.

While the very well-known Rip-Off Report site cannot be all things to everyone, they have very stringent guidelines on what content can & cannot be posted, & if I had filed anything inappropriate it would NOT have been approved or worse been redacted, of which there are many examples of such reports here (https://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/dr-james-m-sambs/san-diego-california-92103/dr-james-m-sambs-ripoff-report-warns-of-perceived-questionable-content-kicked-out-of-the-1076304). And like other U.S. websites, Rip-Off Report is protected by Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Section_230_of_the_Communications_Decency_Act. They DO NOT charge people to have negative content removed; removal could only be done in correspondence with a successful court-action against the claimant who filed a Report after proving the content was false.

3. U.S. & CANADIAN “STALKING” LAWS

Criminal Harassment (Canada).  (Legal equivalent of Stalking under Canadian Law, which is not specified by name) Canadian Criminal Code 264 (R.S.C., 1985, c. C-46.).

264 (1) No person shall, without lawful authority and knowing that another person is harassed or recklessly as to whether the other person is harassed, engage in conduct referred to in subsection (2) that causes that other person reasonably, in all the circumstances, to fear for their safety or the safety of anyone known to them.

Marginal note: Prohibited conduct

(2) The conduct mentioned in subsection (1) consists of

(a) repeatedly following from place to place the other person or anyone known to them;

(b) repeatedly communicating with, either directly or indirectly, the other person or anyone known to them;

(c) besetting or watching the dwelling-house, or place where the other person, or anyone known to them, resides, works, carries on business or happens to be; or

(d) engaging in threatening conduct directed at the other person or any member of their family.

See Criminal Harassment under the Canadian Criminal Code: http://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/C-46/section-264.html 

https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=CCP&sectionNum=527.6.

“New Age of Cyber Bullying”-http://www.mondaq.com/canada/x/727084/Social+Media/The+New+Age+Of+Cyberbullying

Civil Harassment (California).

-Unlawful violence, like assault or battery or stalking, OR

-A credible threat of violence, AND

-The violence or threats seriously scare, annoy, or harass someone and there is no valid reason for it.

Stalking (California). California Criminal Penal Code § 646.9. Stalking.

(2008). (a) Any person who willfully, maliciously, and repeatedly follows or willfully and maliciously harasses another person and who makes a credible threat with the intent to place that person in reasonable fear for his or her safety, or the safety of his or her immediate family is guilty of the crime of stalking, punishable by imprisonment in a county jail for not more than one year, or by a fine of not more than one thousand dollars ($1,000), or by both that fine and imprisonment, or by imprisonment in the state prison.

See the SHouse Law Group Site’s best explanation of California Stalking Laws- https://www.shouselaw.com/stalking.html

Making say, 100 phones calls a day, 100 messages or texts per day, or one very-long message to the same person or persons is the legal standard that the above “repeatedly” refers to here. My sent messages with the shared Rip-off Report link, & shares on various social media & forums are the only things I’ve done that could possibly be applicable; but even if combined, my messages to Shannon, her family, friends, & separate contacts with the shared Rip-off Report link, wouldn’t even begin to come close to said required legal-standard, not to mention compelling any extradition efforts requested by Shannon to get me to Canada to face criminal charges.

4. U.S. “DEFAMATION” LAWS

As stated earlier, Business owner Shannon has a great deal of leeway to sue any fellow Canadian consumer who files online social media complaints about her & her business, even if the allegations cannot be proven by Shannon as “false”.

However, Shannon would face many hurdles by the below rights I have as a U.S. Citizen. I left out CANADIAN “DEFAMATION” LAWS here, because Shannon would have to file litigation against me in the area that I live in San Diego, CA U.S.A. Here is a 2018 Canadian internet libel case ruling that favors jurisdiction for foreign defendants in “cross-border” litigation- http://bit.ly/2yhVBiW

As for my filed online Rip-Off Report & my sharing it across social media in general:

The U.S. Consumer Review Fairness Act (CRFA) protects people’s ability to share their honest opinions about a business’s products, services, or conduct, in any forum, including social media.

https://www.congress.gov/bill/114th-congress/house-bill/5111/text

Three U.S. AVVO Attorney Answers on The Merits of a Filed Defamation Suit based on negative social media comments on someone:

a). “With respect to a defamation lawsuit, most defamation lawyers want a $5,000.00 retain fee just to begin work, and without a significant monetary loss, the costs would likely far exceed any recovery.”

b). “The cost of a defamation suit would greatly exceed any recovery.”

c). “Your damages, or lack thereof, don't justify bringing a claim.”

 https://www.avvo.com/legal-answers/is-it-unprivileged-publication-of-the-statement-to-1312883.html

Defamatory Libel (Canada). Canadian Criminal Codes 297-301.

Definition:

298 (1) A defamatory libel is matter published, without lawful justification or excuse, that is likely to injure the reputation of any person by exposing him to hatred, contempt or ridicule, or that is designed to insult the person of or concerning whom it is published. See Defamatory Libel Laws under the Canadian Criminal Codes 297-301: (http://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/C-46/page-70.html#docCont)

Defamation: Libel, & Slander (California). Cal. Civ. Code §45 and Cal. Civ. Code §46

Definition:

Defamation is an invasion of the interest in reputation. Under California law, it's a broad term for false statements made that cause damage to someone's reputation.

California Civil Code (Cal. Civ. Code) states that defamation is effected by either libel or slander.

1). If a statement is made verbally, it is slander.

2). If made in writing, it is libel.

To prove defamation in California, you must establish four elements:

-That someone made a FALSE statement of purported “fact” about you:

-That the statement was made (“published”) to a third party;

-That the person who made the statement did so negligently, recklessly or intentionally; and,

-That as a result of the statement, your reputation was damaged.

Libel is a false and unprivileged publication by writing, printing, picture, effigy, or other fixed representation to the eye, which exposes any person to hatred, contempt, ridicule, or obloquy, or which causes him to be shunned or avoided, or which tends to injure him in his occupation. See the SHouse Law Group Site’s best explanation of California Defamation Laws: https://www.shouselaw.com/personal-injury/defamation.html

The term, “Smear campaign”, based on Shannon’s allegation of my sending her childhood friend a “smear campaign” with my message & Rip-off Report link, also falls under the legal defamation category, a mixture of distortions, half-truths, & outright lies, & again, EVERY single statement I wrote, including the Rip-off Report’s link content, would have to be proven by Shannon as being “False” -https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Smear_campaign.

In explaining why she had me looking up the term “Flying Monkeys” (‘HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL’ & QUESTIONS ANSWERED), Shannon mentioned having dealt with a so-called Smear Campaign in the past:

Shannon’s "Explanation of Flying Monkeys" SMS to D 7-17-17 ": "I'm not sure you were understanding why I was trying to recommend that. It’s basically that I don’t want to see you caught up in anyone's misguided funk.  You are better than that, obviously. I have personally have had people who I worked for try to create a nasty smear campaign over me and to this day don’t understand why. I was completely blindsided by it and it made no sense whatsoever." [IMO Could it be, that Shannon’s Whole Foods Cambie co-workers tried to complain about her “far left-of-center” behavior in the workplace, & she was let go in light of it?]

Though the very LAST thing I wanted to do was to waste my energy & time doing another update here, at the end-of-the-day, my trusty research skills provided me with the means needed to fight back against business owner Shannon’s attempt to extort a former client from exercising U.S. consumer rights. Shannon’s campaign allegations are entirely based on this filed Rip-Off Report, that everything stated in it is FALSE when in fact, MY REPORTED ALLEGATIONS HERE ARE 100% ACCURATE & TRUE, with ALL OPINIONS & CONCLUSIONARY statements legally stated as such (“see Legal Disclaimers”), giving any person or institutional rep. who made statements used in the Report (including myself), full protection as witnesses in any defamation suit Shannon filed against me; [IMO her above rant is clear proof she would be a danger to anyone whose identity would be exposed to her!!] Unlike the antiquated Canadian law for online consumer protection, in a U.S. court Shannon would be required to show “Burden of Proof” of the Report’s statements being FALSE, & “Actual Damages” (loss of any business, reputation, emotional pain & suffering, etc.). In addition to my rights as a defendant to obtain medical records on Shannon mentioned in Update: Shannon's Two Responses To The Filed Rip-Off Report On Her, 5-25-18 , I could also issue subpoenas for her Mother, Brother, Niece, Cousin, Childhood friend, & Shannon’s ex of 8 years who I reached-out to in January, a former videographer for Canadian Bodybuilding competitions (who by the way, was quite gracious & understanding without revealing anything, as per my usual request), ALL for written or taped witness depositions; I have retained records of ALL of my extensive time-stamped text & email conversations with Shannon that I’ve used excepts of throughout this Report to present to any court; copies of my cell phone records of international calls to Shannon for sessions; & PayPal receipts of ALL payments to her.

Finally, I could actually counter-sue Shannon for “Breach of Contract” (Confidentiality), despite it being equally un-feasible for ME, & I HAVE PROOF!! [IMO her enabling & supportive family (Shannon’s Mother liked one of the early posts), & close friends of Shannon’s such as her Childhood friend, either know her well enough not to push the wrong buttons on her & accept her for what/who she really is, or her issues have gotten progressively gotten worse in her isolated Vancouver lifestyle since she left her childhood home in Cowtown & they haven’t inter-acted with her enough recently to learn the “Truth”. If they DO KNOW, as many Canadian fitness industry people do, I think there have been a river of “99 tears” that have streamed down the Cowtown streets over the 45-going-on-46 (October 19th) Shannon’s wasted gifts & potential.] I know how one’s precious years of life can be forever lost by years of legal-battles & have no desire to go back; but will stand for my rights if I must. So, does Shannon really want to put herself, friends, loved ones & her former client she knows full-well sheunprofessionally cut-loose, through ALL of the legal proceedings that in-the-end, [IMO will yield NOTHING??]

[IMO, Shannon is keenly aware of her slim prospects with litigation, which is why she is leaning towards the criminal-side with prospective Cyber-Stalking & harassment charges]. However, Shannon's claim of having filed ANY criminal cyber-stalking reports with authorities AT ALL at THIS time, are 100% Bogus!

Based on Shannon’s initial campaign posts, I spoke with the West Vancouver police by phone, whose dispatcher informed me that I would have been contacted immediately had just ONE cyber-stalking criminal complaint had been filed, as they are thorough & wouldn't waste their time & resources "collecting a series of reports beforehand"; & I actually went into the local San Diego Eastern Division, who's desk officer informed me of the same thing, a corresponding search in my name revealed nothing, Shannon has NOT spoken with Law Enforcement reps in San Diego. [IMO Even if she does file anything with the authorities, it would be equal to the eccentric, elderly lady one sees in classic movies, who goes into the police station every day to report having seen a murder, filed & investigated as is required, but rarely taken seriously.].

Answer from Los Angeles Attorney P.K. on the Law Forum AVVO-https://www.avvo.com (9-27-18):

“Anyone can file anything, criminal or civil, they want. That doesn't mean a DA (if a criminal report is made to the police) would file criminal charges… Likewise, anyone can file a civil complaint...”

Also, authorities do NOT issue Cease & Desist orders themselves, they are only asked to serve them by the court. These short explanations of “Cease & Desist” orders & letters from upcounsel.com, cover both U.S. & Canadian procedures, which are basically the same:

1. A cease and desist letter does not automatically signify a lawsuit. It is simply a warning about illegal behavior that lets you know that further penalties could follow if the behavior, such as patent infringement, doesn't stop.

2. A cease and desist order is granted by a court. It serves as a temporary injunction. The party that receives the order must stop what they're doing until a trial can be held. After the trial, a permanent injunction may be ordered. (https://www.upcounsel.com/cease-and-desist)

However,the San Diego desk officer DID echo the U.S. Coach’s concerns & what I myself had sensed, that I was in a gray-area regarding further messages to Shannon’s family & close friends with the Rip-Off Report link, & that I needed to STOP NOW before I “crossed-over”. The church pastor concurred when I later spoke of this latest drama with Shannon. Despite her bogus claims, if Shannon wanted to scare me into using my common-sense, she at least gets points for THAT. But I’ve done NOTHING ILLEGAL yet, will KEEP it that way, & NEVER attacked her every day; if she feels “constantly attacked every day” it’s either via her conscience, people mentioning the Report to her, or by losses she’s incurred in light of it, NOT by ME directly. The bottom-line as stated by Both Authority reps to me is that if ANYTHING, Shannon’s allegations would onlywarrant litigation claims.

ON BOUNDARIES, MY 1ST COACH, & “OTHER WOMEN” ALLEGATION

Shannon’s claim about boundaries is merely another holistic-slap at my Adult ADD, though by NO means do I put ALL of my ill decisions entirely on that affliction as an excuse. Outside of what I belatedly learned (“Mystery illness”) & researched for this Report, I NEVER violated Shannon’s boundaries as such, at least until I messaged her childhood friend. It’s easier to respect boundaries of those who are “honest”; those with [IMO Shannon’s mixed “Integrity” on the-other-hand (i.e., her “Degree”), the TERM MOST LOOSELY used by her, NOT so easy]. I already mentioned why my 1st coach & I fell-out at the start of this Report (“SHE LOOKED LIKE AN ANGEL”), & the next chapter’s information in particular makes her hypocritical allegation of my 1st coaching relationship stick-out like a sore-thumb, no IMO needed! During my 1st year as an online advocate for FBB & WPD competitors in 2012, I learned of the “Hush-Rule” the HARD WAY when I started an online fundraiser campaign for my late ex, a legendary FBB whose “medical ailment” turned-out to be self-diagnosed, leaving me with the egg-on-the-face task of disavowing her cause & corresponding fundraiser after she cut me off & replaced me with another campaign manager. This was the ONLY other time I had to post of another female competitor’s issues online unless I shared someone else’s post after a confirmation, but something Shannon knew of & is now using to falsely imply I’m “most likely doing it to other women as well” in her disingenuous Anti-Smear Smear Campaign against me. With what I’ve previously stated as being my great respect for women of ALL her allegations, Shannon’s particular exploiting of her being a “harassed woman” here, is THE MOST hurtful & insulting to me, equally insulting to female competitors I know of who are truly dealing with Cyber-Stalking/Bullying on a regular basis. There are MANY women in the fitness industry that would vouch for my respectful treatment of them, my honesty, & of my integrity, if needed. I’ve put my imperfect self out here as much as possible with WAY TOO MUCH INFORMATION short of revealing my face or name (Shannon tried to take care of THAT!); but in exposing Shannon, too much is better than not enough.

SHANNON’S “TOXIC-GAMING” PRIMER

To better understand how/why Shannon’s “post-mystery Illness” comment behavior towards me as stated in this Report has had such a traumatic effect on me towards shaking her loose, I felt it important to share excerpts from Shannon’s own texted opinions of the 1st coach’s treatment of me & Shannon’s “toxic-gamer” social media advice” given me.

In going back to these texts for excerpts, even I couldn’t believe how mind-bogglingly ironic they come-off now in light of Shannon’s own subsequent actions towards me; [IMO If she ever reads the Report & this update, I just don’t see how her childhood friend could even quietly deny my “2 different people comment” of Shannon in my message to her]:

I described the basic reason of why my 1st Coach & I fell out in (“SHE LOOKED LIKE AN ANGEL”), an accidental overstepping of boundaries based on the 1st Coach’s own slip-of-the-tongue to me, combined with a FB tagging by one of his friends he’d forgotten about, thus revealing his “secret”. As a verbal part of our coaching agreement, the 1st 50% of it was for Shannon to help me distance my mind away from the 1st coach I’d retained for both nutritional & later life coaching, who had otherwise performed HIS services consistently, prior to the revealed “secret”. With the 1st coach’s FB unfriending & subsequent silent treatment, this is where Shannon’s “toxic-gaming” primer (I’ve coined this term) came into play: “Absence make the heart grow fonder”, meaning someone who is snubbing you that you resist contacting first, & they see less about you online until they can see nothing of you at all, they will start to wonder about you, miss you, then ultimately reach-out to YOU FIRST-so YOU WIN. Naturally when we first started, I thought any other toxic behavior Shannon mentioned was just part of her learned life coaching lessons she herself had long transcended beyond using as part of her own healthy life-style, [IMO NOT something she was still utilizing herself to manipulate people as she’s doing NOW with her current campaign against me. Clearly to Shannon, she’s beaten me a few times, now].

Shannon on using FB settings control 5-3-17: “If he can see your posts or anything you do, change your settings so that he can't. Appear to have dropped off the face of the earth. People forget negative memories way before they forget positive memories about others. You are going to use that to your advantage in this case.” ...”When you post, there is an option to have only friends see it in the right corner of the post. If he continues with his disrespectful behavior, you’re going to have to stand up to it at some point. Would you ever treat someone the way he recently treated you?”  …” You can make a list of certain people that will not be able to see your posts…”

5-4-17:” Blocking is a statement, so hold off for now.....”

5-6-17:” How is unfriending helping anyone? How is stone walling helping anyone?”

5-6-17: “From how you have explained things here, please look up "covert narcissism". And "trauma bonding" when you get the chance, let me know what you think after reading up on it.” (1.http://infoselfdevelopment.com/covert-narcissism-know-your-emotional-abuser/,  2.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traumatic_bonding.)

More on the “Silent treatment” 5-13-17: “Yes, it is very abusive as its intent typically is to manipulate and punish someone while withholding any humanizing behaviour. And has NO place in a trainer/client relationship unless it is in response to abuse coming from the other person.” (Note: Shannon’s decision to “unplug“=the silent treatment began with my “Mystery Illness” comment; but HOW would I (or anyone else in my shoes) have known, that comment was “abusive” in Shannon’s mind, unless I knew her as well as her family, or someone like her childhood friend does??).

D: “Does the coach feel I abused him by messaging someone who may have exposed his secret?”

Shannon: “No, he's just handling his upset-ness in a very unhealthy, unproductive way that can come back to him and hurt his business and reputation. This is a guess on my part, but I think he's assuming you will be "too nice" to hold him accountable for his unsavoury and unprofessional behaviour and he can get away with it.....” [IMO,Shannon later wrongly assumed the same thing herself.]

5-18-17: “Well, he's an adult and needs to be accountable. If he had dealt with you with more respect and communication you would have never talked to the other person. Think about it...... He brought it on himself. Karma. You did nothing intentional. If he had done the professional thing and address it to say he would like that issue left alone, THERE WOULD BE NONE OF THIS. Don't try to own something that isn't yours. I know it's easier to blame yourself than feel the full sting of his betrayal and disrespect.....but you will stay in the hell you are and bring more of it if you don't deal with it as it is. Don't hate me too long after that, you need to hear it.”

5-21-17: “I am upset this coach acted in this way towards you. You deserve better than that, … just nasty, unacceptable behaviour on his part… I don't really judge people on stupid decisions as I've made a lot of my own. But what would bother me is the incongruence of a person’s words, appearance, and actions. It would be hard to trust someone like that, and any type of coaching requires a lot of trust. Let's say for whatever reason I really felt in my values that it was the worst of the worst things to do and could barely look him in the eye because of it.... he would have opened up and own that s**t, admit it's wrong, tell his side and be forthcoming about the whole thing......I would be able to let it go and that would earn my respect. I do NOT respect how he handled this AT ALL. I'm angry for you.....but that's me with my “Shannon Hat” on. People are always going to do stupid stuff and make mistakes.....that's just what we do. Proactively addressing your mistakes, being accountable for its effects on others, then learning from it, hopefully, is the responsible way to handle it.....or you are contributing to a more negative, destructive environment. ..what I am seeing IS NOT OK. MENTALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE WHO CARE DO NOT TREAT PEOPLE IN THEIR LIFE LIKE THAT. That is just as bad, IMO arguably worse, as calling someone names, or literally punching them in the face. INEXCUSABLE!!”

Keep in mind that unlike Shannon, despite the 1st coach’s personal behavior, he still had the professional wherewithal to end things appropriately, hence NO filed Rip-Off Report on HIM. [IMO the above is probably the BEST example yet of how Shannon’s own statements & actions as reported here, have been the most revealing & damaging to HER,  NO “smear campaign” necessary!!] Shannon is an experienced professional toxic-gamer, having posted about “toxicity” in her life as far back as 2012 across her social media; so if she wants to ”minimize the toxicity” in her life as she posted, she’ll 1st have to deal with “the most Toxic person of them all”, [IMO a question I’m sure Shannon’s mirror has answered MANY TIMES.]

SUMMARY OF ADDITIONAL ALLEGATIONS

For the Rip-Off Report record, here are the two, additional allegations against Business Owner Shannon McDowell of SLMBODYBUILDING-FITHOUSE:

              4. FALSE CLAIMS OF HARASSMENT & DEFAMATION

Based on her previous deep influence & where I still was in my life, moving beyond Shannon was a difficult process for me, & continuing to follow Shannon on her social media was certainly of NO help. While it WAS inappropriate & foolhardy of me to send a message with a link to this Rip-Off Report to Shannon’s childhood friend, it was the epiphanic-moment needed to realize (with a little help), I needed to stop were I was going before becoming exactly what Shannon accused me of. It was equally inappropriate of Business Owner Shannon McDowell to exploit sent message to her friend by starting a massive anti-Cyber-Stalker-Bully Campaign against me with false accusations of harassment & defamation, an inverse manner of bullying ME from sharing my consumer complaint filed as a former client against her, one I have every right to reasonably share as a U.S. citizen. Revoking part of my messaged promise to Shannon in light of her subsequent actions, I will occasionally pick my spots to share this Report when & where I feel it’s needed, & I hope that others who have [IMO been through-the-gauntlet with Shannon], will have the courage to follow my lead, Canadian consumer protection laws will catch-up to the U.S. someday. To use one of SLMBODYBUILDING-FITHOUSE owner Shannon McDowell’s own campaign slogans here, as a U.S. consumer: “No Business Owner is going to bully me, and neither should they bully you!!”  

Shannon has NEVER filed a DIRECT rebuttal to this report, & [IMO NEVER WILL, because she’s a dedicated toxic-gamer who feels doing THAT would be a concession to me of sorts, & of course doesn’t want to lead people to read this potentially ruinous Report]. But it’s very easy for her to attack me, the report, & site within the controlled confines of her social media with her distorted posted facts, without providing people with a link to the report to read so they can form their own opinions. So as promised, I WILL leave Shannon alone. But this filed Report is NOT going away, & Shannon may be able to avoid it by “holding her own space” for now, as she suggests people do for “resolution” as her new FB page mantra, but she will NOT be able hold her conscience back forever; she knows what she did to me was both WRONG & HURTFUL, & it will gnaw away at her until she resolves it in some way, even Shannon will not be able to ignore her own above comments about the 1st coach without cringing.

In the end, ALL of Shannon’s out-of-the-way energy & efforts to stubbornly deny & avoid accountability could have been avoided back on 10-18-17 with her professionally disengagement of the coaching relationship when she texted me she would. To apply Shannon’s own statements about the 1st coach to HER: “MENTALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE WHO CARE DO NOT TREAT PEOPLE IN THEIR LIFE LIKE”THIS; & I “did nothing intentional. If Shannon had done the professional thing and address it to say she would like that issue (“Ailments”) left alone, THERE WOULD BE NONE OF THIS “.

5. BREACH OF CLIENT CONFIDENTIALITY

The MOST INAPPROPRIATE act on Shannon’s part during the early part of her bogus campaign was breaching confidentiality  in our signed contract by showing a screen-shot of my message to her with my FB profile photo & name for a period of 2 days, along with her posted rant. This, along with Shannon’s own commentary about my 1st Coach’s actions echoing hers, underscores the latter part of my 2nd allegation (2. PERIODIC UNPROFESSIONAL BEHAVIOR, DUE TO “HEALTH ISSUES”). Certainly an act done during the emotion-of-the-moment, but an irrevocable & potentially damaging one for me as a former client.

I reiterate, ALL OF MY REPORTED ALLEGATIONS HERE ARE 100% ACCURATE & TRUE that I stand by, with one variation: Due to Shannon’s egregious BREACH of the “Confidentiality Clause” In Our Contract, arguably the worst breach that ANY coach could commit against ANY client [IMO at this time,

SHANNON MCDOWELL SHOULD NOT BE RELIED UPON AS A LIFE COACH, OR ANY OTHER TYPE OF COACH!!]

CODA

I had made my point back in late March (& then some!!), my biggest mistake was in trying push it by forcing resolution with Shannon, lacking the patience & faith that what I first presented here would be proven over the natural course-of-time, Shannon possibly reaching-out someday of her own accord. But I created the mess with the message to Shannon’s childhood friend (though Shannon created her own in-the-process); making clean-up on my end via this update, necessary.

ALL this said, with Shannon’s vast knowledge, commanding voice & looks, [IMO she could actually make for an excellent speaker at seminars, etc., as well as be an excellent example of health at middle age as a fitness model, IF she submits [IMO to the “proper professional help” as her former-friend stated, or find some other method to learn to maintain her professional composure at ALL TIMES; seguing into this might be more suited to her than 1-on1 coaching services]. But clearly Shannon’s Self-Doctoring will continue for now, & her Cowtown family & close friends will maintain their blind-loyalty & protection, with either no means or courage to help her; even Shannon’s ex of 8 years requested I remove a jabbing new year’s day FB meme I did of her, to which I complied. And occasional retreats for when she empties her toxic-gaming feedbag like her recent one at Barrier Lake, B.C., are insufficient unless they include professional therapy. So for the time being, if someone meets a buff, beautiful blonde doing selfies at a West Vancouver, B.C. GoodLife Fitness owned Fit4Less late at night who offers direct-advice, don’t jog, RUN!!]

I MUST LET-GO, but will ALWAYS have a flame in the back-burner of my heart for Shannon, because it’s sad to know that an extraordinarily gifted person like her cannot apply her gifts for her own benefit, & will be out there spinning her wheels to nowhere as she nears the half-century mark; [IMO there’s a genuinely good person inside that troubled soul with good intentions who can come-out 100%]. I also offer an OFFICIAL, OPEN-APOLOGY here to Shannon & her childhood friend for sending the message with the Report link, though Shannon has shown [IMO she doesn’t really accept apologies or any overtures of peace; she either pretends to, ignores them, or exploits them for drama].Earlier proof of this was Shannon sending my close friend E a forwarded copy of my personal apology & confession of my true feelings for her as part of Shannon’s desperate email to him when learning of the Report; what she didn’t know, was that I had confessed my true feelings to E & my young business friend LONG before I did to HER. Otherwise, I cannot “FIX THIS” as per Shannon’s demand, with that of what I’ve posted here being the TRUTH, particularly as I need fixing MYSELF, [IMO only Shannon’s prospective psychiatrist can “FIX ALL OF THIS” for HER.]

Seeing this update should provide Toxic-Gamer Shannon Lone McDowell with another BIG burst of drama-fuel before her campaign-well finally runs dry, though based on her recent retreat, doing this drains more than strengthens her; but I won’t be around to provide her with any more drama myself, or add to her stress, I NEED my own “ retreat”. Short of my posting of an offered olive-branch from Shannon, at least for the sake of closing-out this filed pubic Report, I intend this to be my FINAL UPDATE (I can hear readers cheers already!!). Though shifting out the valid from the invalid taught to me by Shannon to continue using will be my HARDEST TASK (next to avoiding her social media), I must follow the pastor’s advice to find peace from within & purpose, as advised by the U.S. Coach. (26. Shannon on FB 'Make Peace...’ (6-30-16).

Speaking of which, I will leave the final words to the U.S. Coach, who has been THE voice of reason throughout these Report updates, & was kind enough to advise me for a final time on Shannon a day after Shannon’s posted rant of my FB message to her, though I certainly did NOT deserve it:

From U.S. Coach on Messenger to D re Shannon’s FB-Post w/ Screen-cap of D in Reference His Message on Her FB Page (9-21-18): "She is ranting and raving and yes, reposted your FB message that you should not under any circumstances have made. I don’t suppose you would take my advice of leaving it be; she will do nothing further, and no one who knows you believes her side, and no one who believes her [IPO if any], will believe your side. There is no up-side for you, only a waste of energy. Be the better person…. [IPO SHE IS SICK AND MENTALLY DISTURBED.] You don’t need any more negative energy. You NEED TO MOVE FORWARD!!”

Shannon recently learned of the filed Rip-Off Report; however, instead of posting a direct rebuttal here ( [IMO unless she's simply taking her time]), she 1st chose to email my close friend E about it, who like my Attorney, Trust's Trustee, & Young Business Friend, was unaware of the report, since I promised all 4 not to mention anything about Shannon to them again the day she angrily emailed me after "unplugging" & blocked me on both of her FB profiles on 12-16-17 (see SHANNON'S "HOLIDAY FEAST"). Since my close friend had long grown tired of acting as a go-between in this matter & assumed it was over & done with, he was not happy getting this email from her. 

Two days later, Shannon posted a public FB "Disclaimer" only explaining her "ailment", similar to her angry "it's called Norovirus" explanation to me (see THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL) that she also shared on her 2nd FB profile & FB page, a clear reference to the report & the opinions of her made in it by me, her former friend, & the U.S. Coach. [IMO Her "ailment" as described is somewhat "convenient", in that it cannot be easily diagnosed (if at all) or cured, a defense for Shannon not to seek any traditional medical treatment for it]. She was wise enough to edit the post by removing the last paragraph, so [IMO as not to draw attention to the fact that something negative about her had been publicly posted]. As usual, none of her FB family members on FB, or known fitness-industry FB friends, responded to this post.

But [IMO that she did this as an FB disclaimer post but NOT as a rebuttal in the Rip-Off Report itself speaks volumes, & as written only serves to underscore what was stated in the report's SUMMARY, CONCLUSION, & 4-20-18 Update sections respectively, that with her defective mental reasoning she cannot separate the personal from the professional, that it's about HER, etc., has nothing to do with nor explains her unprofessional actions towards me as Life Coach-to-Client, further confirmation why at this time, SHANNON MCDOWELL SHOULD NOT BE RELIED UPON AS A LIFE COACH.]

That Shannon would not be happy about this filed report & could suffer losses in light of it, are both common-sense givens; but despite her continual threats of possible litigation, as indicated in the report's Legal Disclaimer & Notes, any losses would legally fall under the category of "Damnum Absque Injuria" ("damage without wrongful act"), & in addition, any medical records of Shannon's subpoenaed by a defendent in a defamation suit that could possibly be filed by her, would NOT help Shannon's case.

All of this said, though I felt it important to update Shannon's initial (though indirect) responses to this report, I will not fall into the same trap of wasting my time by partaking in anything Shannon continues to dish-up in the from of unhealthy toxic drama; so other than some signifcant related event, I will spare readers any "he said, she said" updates here, for what is already a VERY LONG report. Finally, my offer of a "shared peace-pipe" with Shannon remains open, & she has my current contact info for direct-communication. 

1. Email From S.L. McDowell to D's Close friend "E" (5-22-18) "E, this man was horribly verbally abusive to me, and is now trying to defame me both personally and professionally after I blocked him and told him to stop contacting me (a Fido App screencap of the Rip-Off Report on her was included). Please get him to stop and just leave me alone before this turns into a litigation."

2. Original FB "Disclaimer" Post by Shannon McDowell (5-24-18) "It’s called ME/CFS. It’s an invisible PHYSICAL chronic illness that seriously physically disables a person from having a normal, pain free, and regularly healthy life. ME/CFS heavily compromises an individuals immune system and general health. There is no known cure for ME/CFS as of this date of posting and symptoms can be only medically managed marginally, at best. The only known long term semi effective treatment in managing ME/CFS symptoms is called “pacing”, where your TOTAL energy and stress levels are constantly micromanaged to an extreme degree on an hourly and daily basis.Things like a car accident, stressful life event or a bad viral/bacterial infection can trigger a relapse spanning from 2 days to 5 YEARS of being mostly bedridden for 16-20 hours each day. It is not a contagious disease. Causes of ME/CFS include the Epstein Barr Virus (causes mononucleosisis) which is also linked to many autoimmune diseases like Lupus, MS and certain types of cancer. One thing it is NOT is a mental illness nor is it a character flaw, nor is it an act of wanting pity.

https://www.cdc.gov/me-cfs/about/index.html

https://phoenixrising.me/

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If I have cut you out of my life, it is because you let me down by refusing to change and/or acknowledge a behaviour towards me that caused enough discomfort, hurt, alienation, and general unwellness to make it absolutely necessary.

For those who “don’t want to speak poorly of anyone” yet freely publish their ill will in the same sentence, and for those affiliated with them sharing the same kind of integrity:

Thank you for re-affirming for me that you are NOT looking out for my best interests, health, well-being or even staying neutral on these matters.

It should be obvious to you and everyone with unquestionable logic, your disrespect and insensitivity YOU displayed WHEN I cut ties and now is why I am UNABLE and UNWILLING to compromise my well-being having you in my life.

If you want people like me to engage with you and develop and maintain any kind of relationship with you be it business, personal or romantic, TREAT such people with a higher regard and the respect you would ask and expect to be treated with."

(Subsequently removed final paragraph):

"Also, Thank you for advertising to everyone including myself, your capacity to act out in this manner so we can all clearly witness you are more than capable doing more of the same . Your actions prove to everyone it’s just a matter of time, as I was unfortunate to learn."

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SlimMcD Shannon McDowell: SLMbodybuilding-FITHOUSE Update (4-20-18): Missing text under TURNING THE CORNER; Last 3 Captioned Photos Under CONCLUSION; CanFitPro Response; The U.S. Coach’s Final Opinion; & Captioned Photo of Shannon (4-19-18).

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From CanFitPro Code of Ethics & Standards of Practice Complaints Rep. 4-20-18: "Hello D, Your email was forwarded to me as I handle the Code of Ethics and Standards of Practice Complaints for CanFitPro. I am sorry to hear of the struggles you have faced in life, and compacted by your relationship with Shannon. I would like to inform you that we do have a formal complaint process regarding both Code of Ethics and Standards of Practice violations. Our certified members are held to the expectations set forth in both documents and failure to comply with any of the items included in either document can lead to consequences up to and including removal of their membership and/or certification. I know from your posting that you did make yourself familiar with our Code of Ethics document, however it is not stand-alone. Because we offer more than one certification discipline, each individual certification also maintains its own Standards of Practice that relate directly to that discipline. The Personal Training Specialist (PTS) version can be seen here:https://www.canfitpro.com/en/certification/certifications/pts.

As per your request in your email to verify Shannon’s certification status, the only verification that I can provide is confirming whether or not she is presently certified. Due to privacy policy, we are unable to provide any details regarding and individuals certification or membership details without their expressed consent. Shannon is presently a certified member with CanFitPro....As the services that you purchased from Shannon were outside of the scope of her PTS Certification and were not directly purchased as "personal training sessions” it is likely that we would be unable to pursue any action against her. I would be happy to discuss any points or concerns regarding this situation further with you and do anything I can to assist you. You can continue to communicate directly with me throughout the process for anything in relation to CanFitPro. Please do not hesitate to contact me directly with any questions or concerns. Yours in health and fitness, M." Certification Administrator CanFitPro/ CANADIAN FITNESS PROFESSIONALS.

After reading the Rip-Off Report on Shannon, with her past Life Coaching experience the U.S. Coach gave me her honest opinion on the matter when I asked:

From U.S. Coach To D, 4-13-18: [IPO"I believe you were in greater need than she was able to provide and she realized this immediately. I believe she used up her tool bag early in the relationship, and then acted unprofessionally in trying to extricate herself. Her personal situation was irrelevant; your payment discount agreed upon was also irrelevant. She was totally contractually at fault. That is the Good news. Ready for the Bad news?”

D: "Yes.”

U.S. Coach: "Your coaching relationship was doomed to fail for two reasons:

1). When payment for subjective result contracts like mentoring, coaching includes a barter-component like the PR work, it cannot succeed. Why? Life coaching is a one-way street. Her life is not relevant, only her success with you. You pulled aside the "curtain from the wizard”, & justified it first by thinking you were helping her, and then again by thinking you were trying to find out why she was failing you as a coach. Once you did that, it ceased to be about you and you were doomed.

2). You became infatuated with her; Angelic? Gorgeous? Muscle size? Competition? Holistic this, homeopathic that? What the h*ll did that have to do with helping you?? You lost your objectivity regarding the purpose and began to judge and objectify the coach…the relationship should have been terminated for lack of performance in September. It was because you became emotionally dependent upon her, and in part because she was of some help in spite of everything, that you wouldn’t/couldn’t let go. It is in this last area that some therapy or self evaluation may be helpful going forward. You had no business caring why she couldn't fulfill the contract, only that she couldn't.”

D: "I would agree with you in that we both lost our compasses for our own reasons. But she made it clear that she could not maintain her professional composure that it was about "The Personal", her ailments, crisis about moving, etc.”

U.S. Coach: "That should have terminated the contract and the relationship.”

D: "Who should have realized that first, the coach or client?”

U.S. Coach: "Good question. You were both impaired in your judgment, and that is what caused "The Long Good-Bye"”.]

Also, I have already uploaded the 3 remaining captioned photos of Shannon that were not previously uploaded due to Rip-Off Report’s per-submission limit of 14 uploads corresponding to the statement under CONCLUSION: "Shannon looks as beautiful & ageless as ever, you can’t take THAT away from her (12. Shannon-FB-7-15-16-As-Compared-To-Shannon-FB-3-1-18, 13. Shannon FB Cover & Most Recent Uploads (3-17th & 24th 2018), & 14. Shannon Volunteering). Based on her 4-19-18 FB posted selfie, annevn smaller-looking Shannon claims to be continuing her extended battle with the flu, but with no info on if she has seen a doctor about it; most online info states that even the most severe cases this year, have lasted no more than about 7-10 days (https://globalnews.ca/news/4056046/contagious-flu-germs ,15. Shannon FB-'Having the flu means lots of time to visualize what’s next' (4-19-18)). This said, along with Adderall usage, flu-shots are also something on Shannon's Holistic "Verboten-List."

On a Final note: The belated, "Thank You” Birthday-gift iPad project I was working on for Shannon, will be completed in the near future & uploaded on YouTube, but only as part of D & E’s updated business résumé.

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